Youth is a time when habits are formed, skills are developed and conceptions are made.
The habits you form at this time will become permanent and stay with you all your life.

Be careful about the kind of habits you form and how you see the world. Some people have a tendency to take the world for granted, they think that they are all powerful and nothing wrong can happen to them even if they do loads of wrong to others. But the truth is, what goes around, comes around. You get what you give. Whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. Nobody was there to tell me this truth when I was a kid.

I Learned it the Hard Way

I was in 3rd standard, when one of my cousins came to our home for studying.

He stayed with us for one year. Initially, everything was fine but after some time, I started feeling jealous of him, because he also was getting the same food, same clothing and attention as my younger brother and myself.

I started teasing him. I troubled him as much as any 8 year old can. I used to get solid scolding from my parents that, but I wasn’t bothered. That didn’t matter to me. All I wanted was to trouble him at any cost. Little did I know that that behavior of mine will cost me many valuable years of my life.

Things changed, he went back his home after 1 year and then my bad time started. I had to leave my home at the age of 9 and study at my uncle’s house. Everything went smooth for a couple months and then circumstances changed. I was treated there as outcast for 8 long years. There was not a single day when I didn’t face mental torture. At that time I could not understand why it was happening to me, but today, I understand it completely-What I had given was being given back to me. What went around came around.

Why am I Telling You this?

There’s only one reason- I want you to learn that whatever you give will eventually come back to you and it’s better if you could learn this NOW, so that you can live a good life afterwards.

A True Incident

In my neighborhood, there was a family of 4 people – A man, his wife (second wife), older son (24 years) from his first wife and younger son (10 years) from his second wife.

That man’s second wife used to treat her step son pretty badly.
I had seen him crying many times. One day when he was arguing with her, the man shouted at him and said “Give her some respect, she is your mother” to which he replied with tears and anguish “She is not my mother, my mother has died a long time back”. Now, imagine, a 24 year old boy crying in the street and saying such words. How much pain he must be going through, how much suffering he must have been passing through? Just imagine!

Days went by and then, one day, when he couldn’t stand his stepmother’s torture, he went away. Where? No one knows. After a year or so, a strange thing happened. That man’s younger son (from his second wife) went insane, without any apparent reason.

What went around came around.

And One More

In my village, my grandfather had planted a couple of mango trees long time back. I had seen all the tress big and magnificent always. Time passed and the trees started getting old.

My grandfather along with his 3 brothers decided to plant new ones so by the time older ones will retire, the new ones will be ready.

New mango plants were bought and planted by all four brothers. (Four plants each)

I am quite fond of gardening, so I used to take great care of my mango plants.
They were quite small at that time. I used to water all of them, take care of them. It was a pleasure for me to see them grow. I had a dream that one day all of those small saplings will grow into big trees and my hard labor will become fruitful, but my dream remained a dream.

Jealousy Killed Some Trees

One of my uncles in family (who is younger than me) was jealous of the good health of our plants. (He didn’t take care of his mango plants and soon they started dying out. here’s one more interesting thing – I used to water my mango plants in the evening and one of his mango plants was there on the way. I always watered that plant first with 1-2 buckets full of water and then only watered mine)

That jealous creature started doing something that can be considered nothing but pure sin. He started breaking the tender, uppermost twig of our mango plants. I was working hard every single day and he was voiding my efforts regularly. He kept on doing this for about 4-5 years. 3 of my plants died out and so did something inside me. I was heartbroken.

And then, a mango tree with the most delicious fruits in the whole orchard became infertile. That tree used to be laden with loads of mangoes. I had tasted some of its fruits, they were sweet like anything. Everything was fine, the tree was in good shape, but there were no more mangoes in sight.

Everything possible was undertaken to get it back to its previous avatar. It was watered, got loads of nutrients and fertilizers, many advices were followed but to no success.

Want to know who is the owner of that mango tree? That same guy who used to break the tender twigs of my mango plants – my uncle.

What went around came around, one more time, without fail.

What’s the Point?

Always think before you do anything wrong to anyone. Whatever you are giving is going to come back – guaranteed. Try not to hurt anyone intentionally. It doesn’t mean that you should try to please people, NO! That’s not what I mean.

What I want to say is this – Be good, Do good, Live well. And always remember, what goes around, comes around.

The guy who wrote this post is Avdhessh Arya: Avdhessh Arya is a personal development coach and voice actor from New Delhi, India. He writes about personal development, and living life on your terms. As a voice actor he is responsible for voicing documentaries, radio spots, television commercials and more - you know, the cool voices you hear on National Geographic Channel, History Channel, Discovery Channel and stuff like that. He's one of them.